Tuesday, January 5, 2010

Clarification 2

Now I'm feeling the need to clarify that last post by making sure my readers know that when Hannah is awake and happy, I am too. I love playing with her, and in those moments, I revert back to thinking I'm fine (as far as mental health goes).  It's not until she loses it that I lose it...which is twice today now. I'm tired from the crying and am feeling sorry for myself that I have to work instead of being able to lay on the couch and rest (or clean my insanely messy house).  Not sure when I turned into the kind of lazy wimp that cries about having to work....I remember when I worked a number of jobs and still made time for fun and exercise. I know there are a ton of women out there raising babies all by themselves, and I'm lucky. I know I'm lucky. I keep telling myself how lucky I am to be able to work from home...part-time....

8 comments:

  1. Terri, I still don't believe it is all a behavioral problem. Observing her day time and night time habits, I see that in the evening she has a double difficult time. Denise is a Homeopathic Midwife and can help with this if you are willing. My heart is there with you and I am committed to helping in anyway that I can.

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  2. Thanks Jeannie. If she has any advice, I'll listen. Keep me posted.

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  3. Bottom line is that you are no good for Hannah unless you take care of yourself too. So give her what you can and then take a break. When you are upset, she feels it and it helps feed her anxiety. When you get too upset you need to put her down - even if it is hard.
    There is no right and wrong answer for taking care of kids. Maybe there would be if they could talk to you and tell you what's bothering them, but they can't. And even if they could, they may not be any better at identifying their feelings than we adults are.
    So just do your yoga and get your aerobic exercise and keep loving her. It's all any of us mothers can do.

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  4. Terri, Your Mother said it very well. "Mothers know best". Ms. Bonnie that was good advise.

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  5. Hmmm someone sounds like they need a Kim visit asap. :)

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  6. I agree with all three of you, buuuttt, being there and seeing how intense she cries, I am sticking to my belief that she is having some colic problems and that it is not all behavorial. I had a colicy baby as well. And I wish I were closer, cause I would be there to help, no doubt. Parents can only do so much.

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  7. I like your advice too mom! And YES--I need some Kim time! Get your butt down here!

    Jeannie, I don't really know what colic is (and from all the reading I've done, it seems no one does but that most just use it as a catch all to mean "baby who cries a ton"), but considering she usually stops crying when we stop trying to put her to bed, I hesitate to believe that she's in pain. After all, if she were in pain, she would continue to be in pain after being allowed to stay up, and usually she isn't. She really just seems to want to fight sleep for all its worth...

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  8. Colic is strong cramps from indigestion. It is real. When she changes postitions it can relieve the discomfort in her tummy (when you pick her up). Her stomach discomfort could be from several things, one being stress from crying. I am confident of it. So now I rest my case.

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