Making the decision to have a child--it's momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.
This is a quote featured in Baby Hearts which I finally finished reading. If I had to sum it up in a twitterature style I would say....Build secure bond, develop trust. Use signs to communicate ASAP. Create routine, boundaries, but let her lead. Be a role model. Teach guilt not shame.
That twitterature thing is way harder than it sounds. I was aiming for wit, but realize I fell way short. Oh well. Yeah, the main theme that kept coming up chapter after chaper (whether it was about fostering healthy relationships or handling anger and defiance) was to focus all efforts on building a secure bond from the get go so that your child trusts you and trusts the world. According to Baby Hearts authors, if you're letting your baby scream it out, the baby learns that you don't care, and if the baby starts life with the unconcious understanding that nobody cares, the baby keeps that understanding and it leads to tons more issues. Soooooooo....another anti-Ferber point. I'm on board with that though I also sometimes give up and let her scream for a few minutes (never more than about 5). Often she'll stop after 2 and pass out.
Okay, next post will be all about how our crib training has been going this week--I really want to update on that. I also just uploaded a ton of pictures...but she's fussing in her crib now so I'm going to go grab her. I'll be back at her next nap. (Today I'm treating blogging like my job.)