Friday, November 26, 2010

The Not-So-Great Thanksgiving Shots

The weather outside was dark and gloomy yesterday and since our shoe box shaped row home only has one window in the front and one in the back anyway, dark and gloomy weather means a total lack of natural light indoors and a total lack of natural light, as we all know, means no good pics for me.  The kids move too much to not use the flash, but using the flash makes the picture weirdly bleached out and flat and impossible for me to edit...So I left the camera alone yesterday and mostly just stuck to cooking and cleaning up.

That said, if you want to see a few not-so-great pics taken at random points during the day, scroll on.

Grammy and the grand babies.
The cousins spent most of the day talking on the phone.  Luckily we have two phones so the fighting was minimal.
At the end of the day we realized we hadn't really gotten any good photos so we jumped into overdrive.
A slightly blurry Hannah and her Uncle Chip.
Clay was too busy talking on the phone to be bothered by Aunt Terri.
Mom tried to take a photo of her kids and their kids....Here's how that worked out:



I stole the next two pics from my mom's camera.
Hannah and Aunt Erica.
Snuggling my very fair nephew (and my mom's teeny, tiny dog).
At least I got a few shots for memory, but it's a bummer that I didn't get any framers.  Maybe next year....

Thursday, November 25, 2010

Happy Thanksgiving!

Unfortunately, I didn't go all mamarazzi today, and the few pics that I was motivated to take didn't turn out too well....Now that the babies are walking, they are impossible to photograph together! I'll post a few of those terrible photos anyway, but not tonight. Tonight I'm tired and am going to bed!  Here's Hannah enjoying her first Thanksgiving meal (she wasn't old enough to eat with us last year).  She LOVED the cranberries. I even let her eat a little pumpkin pie, but, oddly enough, she wasn't that into it.  Good!!  That means I'm doing a good job of developing her taste buds around non-sweets! Well, except that the cranberries are sweet....


 I hope you all enjoyed the holiday and found much to be thankful for!

Sunday, November 21, 2010

Hannah's New (Old) Table

Hannah inherited a little wooden table with two chairs that belonged to her granpah and his sister when they were little and then to her daddy and uncles.  We set it up it at the end of the island kinda halfway between the kitchen and the dining room in the spot the high chair formerly occupied (we're passing that down to Hannah's friend Adelaide until Hannah has a sibling who needs it).  Hannah sat right down with her breakfast and her crayons and started coloring.  (We were moving slowly on Saturday so you'll have to excuse the fact that she is only half dressed and that her hair is crazy and in her face.)


Before long, Hannah decided to rearrange the furniture...




She pushed the table all the way over to the window, which is, admittedly, a much nicer spot to sit. Unfortunately, that spot is currently occupied by the cat's food and water...Fortunately, we're okay with the table sitting kinda cockeyed and haphazardly in the middle of the room as long as it keeps her happy and occupied while I'm trying to make her breakfast, and so far, it does. Love it! Thanks Grannah and Granpah!

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Just to Clarify...

I am an avid subscriber to the Whatever Floats Your Boat club and did not intend my last post to be at all preachy or judgmental or anything like that. On the contrary, I was feeling paranoid about societal pressure and felt the need to defend my right to continue to nurse past age 1...I have no clue why I'd been feeling so unnecessarily paranoid and insecure about it, but I'm not now and part of getting here was blogging about it. Catharsis is the name of the game.

In short, please know that I don't think that I know what's best for ANYBODY'S kid but my own, and I hope I never act like I do because I try really hard not to. It's hard enough for mamas these days without other mamas judging them...From where I stand, nursing seemed like the path of least resistance, so I took it, and since me and my nursing partner are happy on that path, we've decided to stay a little while longer.

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

My Breastfeeding Rant (and 15-month stats)

Alas, I have no pictures for you today, only stats from Hannah's 15-month checkup and an overly long rant on breastfeeding.

Weight: 20 lbs 6 oz (15-20th percentile)
Length: 31-1/2 inches (80-90th percentile)
Head circumference: 48 cm (totally forget the percentile, but "everything looks good.")

Hannah took her baby doll to her appointment, and I told the doctor that we sometimes say things like, "It looks like the baby is tired, I think it's time for her nap" to get Hannah to nap more easily. It's a great trick, one that I highly recommend., and it worked at the doctor too.  After inspecting Baby's eyes, nose, and mouth, the doc inspected Hannah's eyes, nose, and mouth, not that Hannah has ever done poorly with the doctor, but she is getting old enough to be confused by it. Unfortunately, Baby was useless when it came to  easing the pain of the two booster shots that Hannah took to the right thigh.  I used to think that sticking an infant was the hardest thing in the world because you couldn't explain to them what was going on and they are so helpless and vulnerable, but now I think that sticking a toddler is harder because they trust you and also because they are capable of more accusatory facial expressions, expressions that say "How could you, you traitor!!"  I thought she'd never forgive me for pinning her arms around her while the pediatrician pumped her full of pain, but after the pediatrician left, I whipped out my secret weapon and let her nurse until all was right with the world again. My what magical boobs you have mommy!!

When I told the pediatrician that Hannah was still nursing she said, "Good for you!" and then asked if I still felt full and then emptied...I guess trying to figure out if I thought Hannah was actually getting sustenance or just comfort.  It was a harmless question phrased delicately but it confused me and temporarily offended me.  I don't like vague, delicately phrased questions because it takes too long for me to decipher them and then once I've managed to figure out what the person is actually asking me and managed to give them the answer they were fishing for, I end up trying to figure out why they phrased it like that and whether or not I should be offended and whip out the boxing gloves. Usually there is less thinking going on and more offense taken/whipping of the boxing gloves. Maybe part of that is the lingering new mama insecurity. Maybe I'm just a psycho hose beast. Either way, it makes me think that being a pediatrician, especially one for babies, must be one of the hardest jobs ever because you have to deal with post-partum women and new mamas like me....Eeeek!  I prefer questions like this: "are you still producing or is she just nursing for comfort?" To which I would answer, "yes, I am still producing, and yes, she does occasionally nurse more probably for comfort."

The nursing thing has had me all confused lately. In the beginning when asked how long I planned to nurse, I always just said, "at least until she's 1" and figured I'd figure it out after that, but I hadn't figured anything out when she turned 1 so I tried to start weaning her, mostly because it seemed the most socially acceptable thing to do, but then she got that terrible rash and the stomach virus, and her molars started coming in (they're in now), and the doctor said her canines are coming through now, so at each of those hurdles, I quit the weaning and let her nurse on demand to get through it.  At this point, I am mostly successful at keeping her from nursing mid-morning (the first and only one I cut); however, she often makes up for this nursing later in the afternoon/evening, so we are often still nursing four times a day despite my earlier efforts at taking us down to three.

I asked my two mama friends who nursed their kids past age 1 for their take on the subject. Well, I only asked the one recently, but I talked to Libby, my guru, a long time ago.  Both her munchkins pretty much weaned themselves sometime around 1-1/2 if I'm remembering correctly....My other friend has three kids, and she nursed the first one until she was 6, at which point her second child was 2, and at which point she said, ENOUGH! and cut them both off.  The third child was then also weaned at 2, and her feeling is that 2 is the magical number because it's when they hit their independent phase anyway. I love that line of thinking!

In addition to pooling all two of my friends, I poked around the internet a little bit and found the following snippet from Anthroposophical Medicine, Breastfeeding and Weaning by Rise Smyth-Freed, RN:

"Benefits from both the process of breastfeeding and from human breastmilk for a human baby are now quite well known.  These benefits include intact immunological development, superior nutrition with resultant superior growth, appropriate maternal-infant bonding, enhanced and superior development of the child into a productive independent human being and reduction of nonproductive illness (chronic illness like allergies, asthma, repetitive ear infections, diabetes and even heart disease).  The American Academy of Pediatrics now asks its Board Certified Pediatricians to recommend breastfeeding for the first two years of a baby's life.  Non-pediatricians may not be aware of these knowledge advances in the field of Pediatrics and other medical specialties like Neonatology, Neurology, Cardiology, Endocrinology, Immunology and Gastroenterology.   The World Health Organization's guidelines are to breastfeed for at least the first 3 years of the child's life.
Risë Smythe-Freed, RN, BS, is a registered nurse since 1981.  She is an Anthroposophical nurse, President of the Anthroposophical Nurses Association of America and Board Member of the Artemisia Association for the Anthroposophical Renewal of Healing."

No, I don't know what anthroposophical means, but since allergies and asthma run in my family, I like the idea of being able to reduce the risk of Hannah ending up with either, so 2 it is!!  If I'm lucky, she'll wean herself sometime in the next 8 months so that I don't actually have to do anything. That would be great. In the meantime, I'd like to get rid of that before bed nursing. I see it as being the hardest to shed, and also, it's the only one that occasionally gets in my way, like if I want to go out to dinner with friends or something and don't want to have to be home by 6:30 to nurse.

Hannah is at least drinking milk now, thanks to Kylie who downed it last time she came over to play. The cow milk seems to make her have poop that burns holes in her butt (like the kind of crazy blisters/sores she was getting in August) so we're sticking with rice milk for the time being.  I don't know why cheese and yogurt don't bother her like that, but they don't...All else is right with Hannah's world at the moment.